There are a couple of books that I always carry with me (figuratively, if not literally) as a means of escape with added lessons to take back into real life when I am ready to return. One is Gabriel García Márquez’s One Hundred Years Of Solitude and the other is Alice In Wonderland. Of the life lessons I have learned from Alice, the main one is that I shouldn’t eat strange mushrooms, but there are other good messages in there, too.
It’s no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then.
That we are constantly evolving due to our experiences changes not just our situation but our own place and reaction to it. If I went back to the same place and time I was three, five or twenty years ago I would not experience it the same as I did then, as I have a different base of knowledge to read into everything that I do now. We are constantly moving forwards, even if it feels like we are stuck still in the same place, or even sometimes going backwards. You can’t stop growing (unless you are eating that well dodgy mushroom again). Experience, good and bad, is growth.
If you limit your actions in life to things that nobody can possibly find fault with, you will not do much!
We are none of us perfect, and it took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will agree with my ethos or the way that I live my life. I still really struggle with criticism and really tear myself up when I know that my wishes go against those of another, and I end up forcing myself to do things that make me unhappy or maintain relationships that I do not trust are good for me simply to not upset another person. Having a child has made me reevaluate how much I care for myself. At the present time I feel like doing the best thing for my family and taking care of myself go hand in hand. Where I would suffer things I did not agree with for the sake of someone else, treading every eggshell scattered about me, I will now break some for the sake of protecting my little boy. Perhaps it has given me an excuse to care more for myself in the understanding that I need to be at my strongest to care for him, or perhaps it is simply another example where I am, with each passing day, a new person.
You’re entirely bonkers. But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
Here’s my one for the year. It’s another part of my self care long-term learnings. Basically ‘more haste, less speed’, applied not only to tasks but also to the big and important aspects of change. I hope to remind myself often that I should stop and take stock of change and progress and enjoy each journey to learning and growth as part of the care I take of myself and my family. From large, sweeping hopes for my life to each project I undertake, I hope to remember to stop and observe, because I worry that if I go rushing through life all my memories may become a blur, and I hope to take good sight of the simple day to day life that I live and love that gentle simplicity.
So, I asked my husband if he would cross stitch me a simple reminder not to be like the white rabbit, rushing through the scenery in a fluster, for that road leads to nothing but panic attacks and increased mistakes. He said he of course would if I could just design him a chart to stitch from, and now that it is complete I thought I would offer it as a free download, for anyone else who could do with a reminder not to hurry their way through life.
The example above has been stitched by my husband in three shades each of mint green and peach with a gunmetal metallic thread for the block lettering. For reference the specific threads used were DMC threads in shades 353, 3824 and 352 (peaches), 564, 563 and 562 (greens) and E317 (metallic thread). The chart may of course be stitched in any substitute threads, and would be effective in a single colour or stitched in a rainbow of hues.
The chart is completely free to download and is a very simple project to complete, as long as you remember not to hurry. Take your time, enjoy your stitching, and treat yourself to a The Hurrier I Go, The Behinder I Get Cross Stitch for your wall.